What if your first love came back on the scene . . . 30 years later?
After yet another disaster, Lorrie is calling time on online dating. She might be single in her forties, but she’s got a good job, wonderful children and she’s happy. This, Lorrie decides, is going to have to be enough.
That is, until she receives a very unexpected request from France. Antoine Rousseau, who had once turned a lonely French exchange trip into a summer of romance, wants to see her – after thirty years.
But Lorrie is a responsible woman. She can’t exactly run off to Nice with the man who broke her teenage heart . . . can she?
I'm delighted to be today's stop on the blog tour for Fiona Gibson's latest book and to host a guest post written by the author herself especially for my readers.
First my review.
Lorrie is such a lovely character pushed into dating by her children who sign her up to an online dating app. As you might expect she meets some crazy people and despairs of ever finding love again until out of the blue her first love Antoine finds her on Facebook. She's not the young girl she was when they had a holiday romance in France she's thirty years older with two children and a lodger.
Stu, the lodger is her best friend. He has started a business called Parsley Force, where he is on call for people who have forgotten an ingredient for cooking. Parsley Force will find the ingredients that are missing and deliver them to the customer's door. How many times have you wished for such a service? If none exists I think the author has hit upon a great business idea.
There's a lot going on in this book,romance, a demanding mother who's getting married, a job that's not going very well and strange men on a dating site, all handled with Fiona Gibson's trademark humour which shines through from cover to cover.
It's great to reader a book about an older woman coping with everything life throws at her as well as trying to find her own personal happiness.
I did predict what would happen but that made no difference to the story as the fun was finding out what everyone went through to get to their happy ending.
There is something really comforting in Fiona Gibson's books,you just know they will cheer you up and leave you with a satisfied smile on your face.
Fiona is now going to tell us what to do if like Lorrie from the book a long lost boyfriend gets in touch.
WHAT TO DO IF AN OLD BOYFRIEND COMES BACK ON THE SCENE / FIONA GIBSON
In The Woman Who Met Her Match, Lorrie’s first love, Antoine - whom she met on a trip to France at age 16 - gets in touch out of the blue, and wants to meet. As it’s 30 years later, her life is very different… but why not have a drink, for old times’ sake? Never mind that she broke her teenage heart and left her devastated.
Having a former love resurface like this would be hugely unsettling for most people - but sort of thrilling too, especially if it has that ‘unfinished business’ aspect about it (I’m talking about the reappearance of an alluring ex here: not the one with the teetering ashtray beside his bed, who happily wore the same pair of mustard Y-fronts flu days in a row). In fact, as social media makes it so easy to track down exes, it’s entirely possible that it could happen. So here’s my guide to what to do.
Don’t freak out. His intention is probably not to storm back into your life in a any major way. People get in touch after a long hiatus for a variety of reasons - with simple curiosity generally topping the list.
Do conduct a little research yourself before accepting an ex as a friend. Check him out on other social media platforms. Possible warning signs that you might be better leaving well alone: an over emphasis on him being a ‘lonely single dad looking for love’; being pictured with his mother - and no partners/friends, ever - in his holiday photos; a picture of him cradling a massive gun.
Don’t feel bad if you decide not to message back. I know it can be difficult; my generation (I’m 52) tends to have that inbuilt politeness that belongs to the days of proper old-fashioned letters and RSVPs. My 17 year-old daughter thinks nothing of blocking a person - whereas, I view it as on a par with standing someone up outside the Odeon in the pouring rain. ‘Block him,’ she commanded when a man - not an ex but a stranger - started posting slightly odd messages on my Instagram recently. ‘But won’t that upset him?’ I wittered. ‘He’s probably a perfectly nice person…’ ‘BLOCK HIM!’ she insisted. The man was duly blocked (I still hope he’s okay about that).
Do, however, look at it positively. If your memories of being with your ex are mainly happy ones, then why not meet? That first boyfriend particularly is one you never forget. One friend of mine ended up back with her old college love, 15 years on, in her late thirties - another ten years later, they have two children and are blissfully happy. Another friend in her 40s has just hooked up with her first love - they hadn’t seen each other since 1997. ‘We were idiots then,’ she told me. ‘It’s so much better now we’re proper grown ups.’
Don’t worry about looking older. Of course you do - and so does he.
Do considering meeting up just for the laugh. If nothing else, you’ll be able to see for yourself what he looks like without that Adam Ant make-up, and with no hair - and have a top-class night reminiscing.
Fiona’s new novel, The Woman Who met Her Match, is out now (Avon)
Thank you Fiona for the advice. I think if that happened to me I'll take your daughters advice a just block,block,block.